Horny but Holy: Let’s Get Real About Celibacy

Hey, girlfriends! Let’s sit down and have some honest, no-filter talk. Whether you’re divorced, single, or holding off on sex for personal reasons, you know the struggle is real when it comes to balancing holiness with those very real physical desires. Seriously, who’s out here having these conversations? Hardly anyone—but we’re about to change that.

First off, let’s just acknowledge it—cuddle season is upon us. The air’s getting cooler, and it seems like everyone around you has someone to snuggle up with—everyone except you. And whether you’re divorced, have never been married, or have made a personal choice to abstain, the reality of loneliness and longing is something we all feel at times. Your Boaz might not be here yet, and that’s tough. So, what does God want from us in these moments when the temptation is strong, and the struggle feels all too real?

This is when I think of the woman at the well. Her story is so relatable, especially during those times when the bed feels a little too big and your resolve feels a little too weak. She was looking for love and validation in all the wrong places, and it wasn’t until she met Jesus that she realized she needed something deeper—something that no man could give her. He offered her living water, something that would truly satisfy her, not just physically but in her soul.

And that’s where we find our strength. Our desires aren’t wrong—they’re part of being human. But we’ve got to navigate them in a way that aligns with God’s calling on our lives. It’s a daily challenge, but it’s also an opportunity to lean into God’s peace and let Him piece together the parts of us that need His touch.

So what do we do? We pray—seriously, prayer is our lifeline. We remind ourselves that God has a plan for us, even when we can’t see it. We stay busy with the work He’s put in our hands and find comfort in the things that bring us peace. And most importantly, we talk about it. We lean on each other because none of us are walking this road alone.

This journey isn’t just for women who’ve been through a divorce—it’s for all of us who are trying to live holy lives in a world that constantly pulls us in the opposite direction. Whether you’re single and waiting, divorced and healing, or abstaining for your own reasons, this space is for you.

Holiness isn’t about perfection—it’s about being real, honest, and letting God into every part of our lives, even the messy parts. It’s about finding peace in the waiting and trusting that God is putting the pieces together in His perfect time.

Welcome to Horny but Holy—a space where we can keep it real, support each other, and walk this journey together, piece by piece, with God leading the way.