Lust, Love, and Letting Go: Learning to Live in God’s Flow

So ladies, I’m not going to lie. I’ve been struggling lately, not just with waiting for things to happen, but with something deeper—something more about me than I’d like to admit. There have been moments of frustration where I’ve asked God why things aren’t moving faster in my life. But as I’ve sat with that frustration, I’ve realized it’s not just about impatience—it’s been about my own desires and how often they’ve been rooted in self-gratification rather than surrendering to God’s flow.

If I’m honest, God has been kind enough to show me something I didn’t want to see—my own tendency to chase after what feels good in the moment, instead of what aligns with His will. It’s so easy to convince ourselves that we’re pursuing good things, that our desires are pure. But when we dig deeper, sometimes we see our motivations are more self-centered than we thought. That’s where I’ve found myself recently.

Lust isn’t always about sex; it’s about craving something so strongly that it consumes us. It’s that overwhelming desire to have things our way, to satisfy ourselves without considering God’s plan or what’s best for others. For me, this has been a tough truth to face. I’ve realized how often I chase after things because they make me feel good—not because they’re what God has for me. Whether it’s relationships, success, or approval, it’s easy to get caught up in what we want right now, without thinking about the bigger picture—or the sacrifices we might need to make along the way.

This isn’t just about waiting for God’s timing; it’s about recognizing where I’ve been living for myself—where I’ve placed my own desires above God’s plan, and even above the well-being of others. Self-gratification can be sneaky. It often disguises itself as ambition or progress, but at its core, it’s about satisfying our own needs without asking, “Is this what God wants?”

God, in His kindness, has shown me that this isn’t how He calls us to live. Real love—whether it’s love for God, love for others, or even love for ourselves—requires us to let go of that constant need for self-gratification. It means trusting God’s flow, letting go of our own desires, and believing that His plan is better, even when it doesn’t feel like it in the moment.

And the hardest part? Letting go also means putting others before ourselves, choosing selflessness over selfishness. Following God’s flow requires sacrifice—not just of time or effort, but of the desires we cling to so tightly. I’ve had to confront where I’ve been living for myself, instead of making space for God to guide me toward what’s truly best for me.

If you’ve found yourself here too—craving things that feel good but might not be what God has for you—I encourage you to pause and ask God to show you where your heart might be misaligned. Ask Him to reveal where you’re seeking self-gratification instead of sacrificing for what truly matters. It’s not an easy process, but it’s one that leads to real peace. Because when we stop chasing after self-centered desires, we open ourselves up to receive the real love and fulfillment that only God can provide.

Let’s be real with ourselves and each other. In letting go of our lust for instant gratification, we learn to live in the flow of God’s perfect plan. His love is greater than anything we could chase on our own—and that’s worth every sacrifice.

-Chassitie L.